How did we get so selfish?
Human relationships. I’ve always believed that human relationships are complicated due to the fact of our own complexity as individuals. We’re all different, with our personalities, features believes and off course egos. That’s why living in a society is so challenging. We have to adapt to each others being ourselves but respecting our differences. And this isn’t an easy task, for sure.
I’m talking about this to contextualize some recently happenings that got me a little bit pissed. I’m telling you all about it below.
All i could think off is that she’s so polite as the fake Chanel bags she wears.
Social media and this fast world we live in have brung above the selfishness who lives in each one of us. We’re getting more and more selfish only focusing on ourselves. And that hasn’t to be a completely bad thing because let’s be truth here: we all think in ourselves first. But we all need limits in order to avoid getting completely self centered. And those limits are the respect for the others and education, off course.
So, i caught myself thinking about this because a few days ago (maybe two weeks) i started writing to a portuguese site, E-konomista, about fashion and beauty. And i was (and i am) so damn happy about it. However, when i shared the first article i wrote there on my personal facebook page, a person from blogosphere i took for a correct and cool, opened the facebook chat with me and started asking a lot of questions. At first, i thought she would say congrats or something, as she knew how i love writing. But all she did was making questions about E-konomista. She didn’t even say hi. You see, i was so disappointed at the time that i felt really sad. After some questions she finally asked how i was but all the situation was already pretty awkward. I really don’t think she did it with a wickedness purpose or so i just think she did it in a selfish impulse. Needless to say, i was truly disappointed, as the image she sells is completely different. I admired her so much and have always thought about her as a good altruistic person.
Then, on another day a girl i use to follow on instagram opened the instadirect calling me a different name (hey, i’m Catarine and i have my name on my insta description) and asking me for a brand’s contact. Okay, she did say hi, but we have never talked before (just to comment each other’s pics from time to time), so it was a little bit odd again.
You see, i wouldn’t have any problem in giving her the contact but it was all so raw that i didn’t. And all i could think off is that she’s so polite as the fake Chanel bags she wears. And that is sad.
My point is, there’s nothing wrong on working hard and making synergies. I do that, we all do. Synergies create positive things for both people so they’re pretty good. Again, there’s nothing wrong on approaching someone with a purpose (even if it sounds interested). But in all these situations we must be polite. It’s an education basic rule and let’s be honest, is way more easy to create empathy being polite than being cheeky. Plus, when we create empathy we can win not just the information but a friend too, depending on the person.
So, let’s be less selfish and more polite, shall we?