How to face mother’s day when you’re mum has already passed away
Mother’s day. I had the best mum in the world. I know everybody says that but my mum was truly the best. And i miss her so damn much.
People say time helps to forget. But when you lose someone that means the world to you that isn’t absolutely true. I miss my mom more and more everyday. For the moments i can’t share with her, for the calls i can’t make, for the support i have no more. That feeling doesn’t disappear with time. We just learn how to deal with it.
Needless to say, i was lucky enough to have a person like my mum in my life. I’m so proud of her as a mum and human being. She was one of the best people i’ve ever known. And even if life has stolen her from me too soon, i still feel lucky. After all, i owe her everything i am.
Anyway, mother’s day is just around the corner and for me it has been a hard day to deal with for the past 3 years. You see, the emptiness is constant when you lose someone, but in this calendar marked day i feel like everybody is reminding me to feel that emptiness. I don’t know if you know what i mean, but i guess that if you’re in my shoes and your mum has passed away as mine did you’ll understand.
I had the best mum in the world. I know everybody says that but my mum was truly the best. And i miss her so damn much.
To be totally honest with you, it’s so damn sad to not have my mum here with me anymore. But the only way to face mother’s day without her is keep thinking in other things. Watch a movie, hang out with friends or reading a new book are good suggestions to change mind’s focus.
It will still hurt but at least for some moments you kind of don’t think about it.
Some people ask me how did i do in order to haven’t fall into a depression. I mean i lost my mum and my bestfriend at once. And it was such a huge problem. Anyway, the fact was i couldn’t change anything. The reality is what it is, and in my case it didn’t matter how sad or devastated i was. It wouldn’t take my mum back. And, if i had fallen into a depression i would have not one problem but two.
Facing life as it is it’s pretty hard. But you have to do it in order to stay true to yourself. It really helps to move on. After all, life goes on no matter what. Focusing on making my mum proud of me wherever she is makes it easier to keep on moving. Even if she’s not physically with me anymore.
If you’re mum has already passed away as mine, keep strong. It’s hard, and there will be a lot of desperation moments. There is nothing wrong with that or with feeling sad from time to time. But you have to focus on making your mum proud wherever she is. It helps a lot, believe me.
At the end of the day, we’ll meet them again one day.